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Lisa Schmidt

12 Days of Christmas Parenting Time

ID-100213191The holiday season can be a stressful period for anyone, but when you add to it a contentious custody situation, the result can be a very blue Christmas for you and your children. By the 12th day of Christmas, your experience may be:

12 Lame Excuses,

Try to focus on what is really motivating you or your co-parent to avoid each other. Ask why your children don’t want to visit their parent.

11 In-Town Guests,

Remember, you children will really want to see Grandma and Grandpa, but maybe not your college roommate. Prioritize their time and give them a chance to relax with both parents.

10 Days Off School,

Even though your kids have 2 weeks off, you probably don’t. Coordinate with your co-parent to make the most of your schedules.

9 Missed Bedtimes,

Admit it, this is happening in both households. Between holiday parties and visits from guests, your young ones’ schedules are going to take a beating.

8 Doubled Presents,

As much as you may not want to, coordinating your gifts with your co-parent can help avoid disappointment and long waits in return lines.

7 Obscene Phone Calls,

As stress levels rise, it’s tempting to take things out on your ex. Don’t. Keep in mind, your child can often hear those conversations and will be the one affected by both parents’ reactions.

6 Family Parties,

Your parenting time order probably doesn’t account for your family reunion on December 28 or the church gathering the Sunday before Christmas. Stay flexible and try to let your kids participate as much as possible.

5 All Out Fights,

Eventually, fights will happen, either between co-parents or siblings. Be prepared to swallow your pride or take an insult, by remembering that fuses are short and days are long at this time of the year.

4 Holidays,

Remember that there is plenty of holiday to go around. The world will not end if the kids have to open their stockings on Christmas Eve instead of Christmas morning, and you may even create a fun new tradition.

3 Pick Ups,

Like it or not, you’re going to be seeing your co-parent more than usual in the next couple weeks. Now is a great time to practice patience and holiday cheer.

2 Mad Parents,

If you choose not to manage your emotions, your children will spend the next 2 weeks dealing with anger on all sides.

And A Kid With A Blue Christmas.

Your children’s holiday experience is up to you and your co-parent. Manage your reactions and keep their feelings at heart and you can help make their days be merry and bright.

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