‘Tis the season for turning over new leaves and resolving to be a better person. This can be especially difficult if you are separated or going through a divorce. Here are 3 New Year’s Resolutions that will help you reduce stress, expense, and hostility in the process.
Divorce is almost always traumatic. For some, it is the idea of strangers digging into their finances. For others, it is the emotional conflict between the parties. Still others fret over the possibility of losing their children. But lawyers and judges will tell you that much of the stress of divorce is created by their clients themselves. These resolutions will help smooth out the proceedings and erase much of the stress.
Resolve to Take Care of Yourself
Any big life change is stressful. Divorce involves changes in housing, loss of friends and family, and shifts in scheduling – all of which can pile on the anxiety. As you go through the divorce process, resolve to take care of yourself. By investing in massages, therapists, or even just evenings out with close friends, you can get a stress outlet and reduce the emotional impact of your divorce.
Resolve to Be Financially Transparent
Divorce will inevitably result in the airing of some dirty laundry. Michigan court rules require each party in a divorce action to turn over all of their financial information including tax returns, proof of income, bank accounts, retirement accounts, and debt history. Resisting this process, by hiding assets or refusing to produce the necessary records will only cost you more money in the long run. Some judges view financial fault more seriously even than infidelity. Obstructing the discovery process could cost you thousands in attorney fees and result in a distribution of assets in your ex-spouse’s favor. Resolve to be financially transparent in the new year. It will save you time, money, and stress.
Resolve to Make the Most of Parenting Time
If your divorce is causing you stress, imagine how it is affecting your children. They are shifting from one home to two. They are feeling the loss of Mom or Dad in the household every day. And they are hearing all the conflict and fighting between you and your former spouse. Whether you are the custodial parent or not, your family will benefit from a New Year’s Resolution to make the most of your parenting time. Your children will develop fond memories of your time together. And you will be minimizing family stress during and after your divorce.
New Year’s Resolutions are always designed to make you a better version of yourself. If you are going through a divorce this year, make your resolutions work for you. Resolve to make your divorce the best version of the process as possible. You will save yourself and your children time, money, and most importantly stress.
Lisa J. Schmidt is a family law attorney at Schmidt Law Services, PLLC, in Ferndale, Michigan. If you are considering a divorce in the New Year, contact Schmidt Law Services today for a free consultation.