Can a school suspend a student for angry posts on Facebook? Courts across the country have asked that question and come to different answers. Earlier this year one federal judge in Portland, Oregon said no. Read the full post »
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on July 27, 2015
In Michigan and states across the country, gay, lesbian, and bisexual citizens are closeted at work out of fear that they will be fired based on their sexual orientation. But last week the EEOC issued a ruling that could change that, equating sexual orientation discrimination to sex discrimination under Title VII. Read the full post »
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on July 20, 2015
The news has been buzzing these last few days about Judge Lisa Gorcyca’s decision to send three children, ages 14, 10, and 9, to a juvenile detention facility after they refused parenting time with their father. See what happens when parental alienation gets taken to the extreme. Read the full post »
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on July 13, 2015
Let’s face it, divorce is hard on children. But the choices you make after the Judgment of Divorce is signed can make a big difference in the lives of your kids. Here are 3 tips for being a better divorced parent.
1. Don’t Diss Your Ex
Depending on how bad the relationship got before you and your ex called it quits, dissing your ex may have become part of your daily routine. But by talking negatively about your children’s parent, you are hurting them. Remember, your children are 50% genetically his (or hers). By telling your kids that their dad (or mom) is no good, you’re telling them they’re half bad too.
That doesn’t just mean to speak nicely about your ex around your kids. Even by posting negative comments on social media or talking to your friends about it on the phone, you are running the risk your kids will find out. Then you will hurt them two ways: one by what you said, and two by saying it behind their backs.
It’s not just about what your kids hear, either. By perpetuating negative opinions about your ex, you change the way you perceive everything he or she does. Being five minutes late for a parenting time pick up changes from “just running a little late” to “has no respect for my time.” This could cause you to see innocent behavior as vindictive or vengeful, and could affect your attitude around your children. Instead, always try to give your ex the benefit of the doubt. If you have to vent negative feelings, try journaling or picking one friend with whom you will share your feelings.
2. Try to Co-Parent if You Can
Of course, there is a reason you got divorced. No, you won’t agree on everything. But if you and your ex can bear sitting in the same auditorium or even going to an occasional dinner together, you will help your children feel like they have one family, instead of two. This can help their mental well being.
But there will be cases when co-parenting is impossible. If your parenting styles are too dissimilar from your ex’s, you are better off using “parallel parenting” methods. Rather than pressing your children to justify how their mother or father responded to a situation, just agree that what happens in his or her house won’t always be tolerated in yours. Set clear expectations for your children with pre-set consequences so they know what to expect. If they try to use your ex’s parenting style against you, just remind them that this is your home and the rules are different here. Don’t put the children in a position of trying to explain the other parent’s actions.
3. Provide Support
The divorce process is very hard on children. They are the innocent bystanders in your war with your ex. So when they seem upset or distant, comfort them. When they need to talk, listen. And when they push away, provide them someone else to talk to. Recognize that they may be angry at you, and they may have a good reason to be. Do your best not to take it personally and give them the space to grieve the home they had grown accustomed to. And acknowledge your own fragility. Your life is changing drastically too, but due to your own decisions. For your children, the changes are coming no matter what they do, but they may not understand that. Be upfront with your children in an age-appropriate way, and never make them feel at fault for what happened. Your children are going to need more support from you as they adjust to living in divorced households. Be there for them. And if you can’t, find a mentor, counselor, or therapist that they can talk to.
Even the most amicable divorce can significantly affect children. But your decisions after the Judgment is signed can help them adjust more quickly. By respecting their feelings and needs, and doing your best to work with your ex to parent consistently, you will help ease the transition.
Lisa J. Schmidt is a family lawyer with Schmidt Law Services, PLLC, in Ferndale, Michigan. She helps divorcing parents identify the best interests of their children and make custody and parenting time decisions that respect the children as well as the parties. If you or someone you know is considering divorce, contact Schmidt Law Services today for a consultation.
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on July 6, 2015
The Supreme Court just granted marriage equality to gay couples across the nation. The decision has many gay marriage advocates preparing for the end of a hard battle. But the Michigan Legislature has shown that when it comes to LGBT adoption discrimination, the fight is far from over. Read the full post »
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on June 29, 2015
The decision that thousands of Michigan couples have been waiting for for months, even years, has finally arrived. On June 26, 2015, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled that gay and lesbian couples have a fundamental right to marriage equality. Here’s a look at the decision. Read the full post »
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on June 26, 2015
Half of America isn’t married. And while live-in couples may be avoiding wedding expenses, they might just be setting themselves up for expensive legal work later on. Read the full post »
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on June 22, 2015
A recent article in the Detroit Free Press does a better job of explaining co-parenting than any attorney ever will. In “An open letter to my ex-husband’s new girlfriend,” shows just what it means to put the kids first. Read the full post »
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on June 15, 2015
On June 1, 2015, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled on whether a federal court could convict a man based on his threatening Facebook rap posts. But the Court dodged the First Amendment issue of Facebook free speech, disappointing some civil rights advocates.
In Elonis v United States, the Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) had a chance to set the record straight on whether Facebook posts were protected speech and if they could be used in criminal prosecution. Instead, it issued a ruling on the need for all federal crimes to include criminal intent. The ruling is disappointed some civil rights advocates, who find themselves in the unusual situation of agreeing with Justice Clarence Thomas.
Douglas Elonis, the rapper known as Tone Dougie, has a habit of posting angry rap lyrics on Facebook when bad things happen to him. When his wife left him and took their children with her in 2010, he began posting threatening photos and “lyrics” about his boss, co-workers, wife, and even an FBI agent. He was fired, which only fueled more posts. His wife got a protection order, to which he responded (page 4):
“Fold up your [protection-from-abuse order] and put itin your pocketIs it thick enough to stop a bullet?Try to enforce an Orderthat was improperly granted in the first placeMe thinks the Judge needs an educationon true threat jurisprudenceAnd prison time’ll add zeros to my settlement . . .And if worse comes to worseI’ve got enough explosivesto take care of the State Police and the Sheriff ’s Department.”
Rather than addressing whether Facebook posts could amount to true threats, SCOTUS instead focused on the federal statute. A 8-1 majority said the biggest problem with this case was that Elonis’s conviction was based on how a “reasonable person” would receive his Facebook posts, instead of anything having to do with his intent to post them. The Court said a defendant had to have some “awareness of wrongdoing.” It said the statute could only apply if a defendant “transmits a communication for the purpose of issuing a threat, or with knowledge that the communication will be viewed as a threat.” Reckless disregard of a statement’s threatening nature may be enough.
This ruling doesn’t settle the question of Facebook free speech, nor does it actually establish a standard to apply in future cases. According to Justice Thomas’s dissent (page 31):
“This failure to decide throws everyone from appellate judges to everyday Facebook users into a state of uncertainty.”
It also puts civil rights advocates up against each other. Steven R. Shapiro, legal director of the American Civil Liberties Union, said:
“[F]or centuries [the law] required the government to prove criminal intent before putting someone in jail. That principle is especially important when a prosecution is based on a defendant’s words. . . . The Internet does not change this long-standing rule.”
But First Amendment scholar Clay Calvert was hoping for more:
“It’s really highly disappointing. It didn’t clarify much in the long run.”
Instead, legal experts will continue to debate the appropriate protections for imprudent Facebook users who use a public platform to vent their threatening frustrations. Elonis will get a new trial where it will likely be shown that his disclaimers demonstrated his knowledge that his posts were threatening. And eventually, the Supreme Court will have to rule again on the issues of Facebook Free Speech.
Lisa J. Schmidt is a criminal defense lawyer with Schmidt Law Services, PLLC, in Ferndale, Michigan. She defends people charged with everything from traffic tickets to criminal sexual conduct. If you or someone you know has been charged with a crime, contact Schmidt Law Services today for a free consultation.
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on June 8, 2015
On May 28, 2015, dedicated students’ advocates, parents, and teachers gathered to learn about what they could do to help special education students get the educational help they need. If you missed it, here’s a quick summary. Read the full post »
Posted by Schmidt Law Services on June 1, 2015